A couple things…
Do you identify as submissive or dominant? Either or? I think sometimes I find it difficult to orgasm when I’m not directing the action. When something is being done to me versus me doing something to her…it’s harder for me to cum. This may be completely inapplicable to your situation based on your answer, but I figured I’d throw it out there.
Second question…have you EVER orgasmed from oral? If not, maybe it’s not your boyfriend at all, but oral in general. Maybe you require a bit of a rougher touch. Maybe he could be fingering your clit while his tongue is inside you? Maybe he could be finger fucking you while tonguing your clit. Maybe he could be massaging your pussy, dropping a finger in your ass and licking your clit. I don’t know. I’m making a lot of assumptions about what is or isn’t going on inside you during this process. Maybe all that IS going on.
Third question…does it feel good? I assume it feels PRETTY good or you wouldn’t continue the process to the point where you’re frustrated by his inability (but not from lack of trying) to get you off. Do you feel it building? Have you gotten close?
Fourth question…how important is it to you that you get off from oral? I’m not saying throw in the towel, but maybe this isn’t a problem so much as identifying that oral, at least for you, is less about orgasm, and more about lubricating the parts and getting ready for sex.
Final question…does it get inside your head? Have you two been at it and tried it enough times that before he even drops to his knees to part your legs, you’re thinking to yourself, “Shit, I hope I cum, he’s going to be sooo depressed if it doesn’t happen this time…” Sometimes, when I’ve been skirting orgasm for a while in order to prolong sex…it gets in my head. Like after an hour, it’s actually hard for me to cum. And I start thinking about how hard it is to cum…sometimes even when I feel it building I start thinking…I’m going to cum…and the process of thinking about it dampens it and I’m like “SHIT! Shut up, you stupid brain!”
Okay…so without the benefit of the answer to any of those questions: He may not be able to get you off solely with his tongue. He may benefit (not knowing you) from seeing you fingering your clit while he’s tonguing you. Hopefully he won’t find seeing you aiding the process emasculating. He shouldn’t. But HOPEFULLY if giving him verbal direction about what to try isn’t something you’re comfortable with…showing him your finger on your clit might be all the clue he needs to gently pull your hand to the side and do it himself.
I don’t know. Lots of gray area here. Hope this helped.
And once again… A Skip answer has sent me wet. Fucker.
Don’t be gentle, I love when you leave me sore. -Toy